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Confidence Is Coming...
Imagine for a moment that you are anticipating guest for the upcoming Holiday. While you are excited about their upcoming arrival, you also have reservations and are gripped with overwhelm as you look around you house thinking about all the things that have to be done. You are looking at the stack of clutter in the corner, the overgrown pile of clothes that need to be placed where they belong, not to speak for getting the groceries and preparing the menu for your guests' arrival.
Well, when it comes to confidence the same is true. Often times while we have invited confidence into our lives to step in and help us take charge as we pursue the life we were created to live; we have the mental equivalent of clutter in our mind. We are reminded of the broken promises we’ve made to ourselves in the past and the old habits that have become the centerpiece of the rooms in which we live.
Well, in order to properly welcome confidence into our lives, we have to prepare for its arrival. It’s not rational to think when it arrives all the things will miraculously take care of themselves. Instead, we have to prepare and get our mental house in order. It’s time to clean up—and that’s exactly what we are going to do, as we prepare to welcome Confidence into our lives.
Here are Five Simple Steps to Getting our Mental House In Order.
Step 1: Throw Out the Trash (Negative Self-Talk)
Think about all those self-doubts like crumpled papers lying around. "I’m not good enough," "I always mess up," "What if they don’t like me?" These thoughts are mental trash, and it’s time to toss them out. Take a moment and think about one thing you often tell yourself that doesn’t serve you. Now crumple it up (yes, even in your mind) and toss it in the bin. No one needs that kind of negativity lying around! 🗑️
Step 2: Rearrange the Furniture (Shift Your Perspective)
My husband is the King of The Rearrange. I can’t tell you the number of times, I will come home and be totally surprised to find furniture or fixing suddenly rearranged. In most instances, as I give him that “here we go again look”, surprisingly the new arrangement serves us well bring a fresh perspective and new appreciation for the space
Likewise, sometimes our beliefs are like that couch we’ve been sitting on forever, even though we don’t particularly like it there anymore. In your mind maybe you believe, "I can’t speak up" or "I’m not a leader." Well, I challenge you to move that belief—shift it around! Try saying, "I’m learning to speak up," or "I’m developing leadership skills." Rearranging this “mental furniture” changes your view and opens up space for something new. A simple change in perspective, and your whole room feels different.
Step 3: Dust Off the Mantle of Your Mind (Acknowledge Small Wins)
Often times, people place family photos, memorable keepsake items or other things representing fond memories on the mantle of their fireplace. But overtime, dust can accumulate a top the mantle creating a layer of dust, if we aren’t paying close attention.
Well, likewise, there are found memories, big wins and small achievements that we often overlook or down right forget about. When was the last time you appreciated even the smallest achievement? Those little victories—whether it’s speaking up in a meeting or setting a boundary—are like trophies collecting dust on your mental shelf. Dust them off! Recognize and celebrate these wins. They are the reminders of your growth, your resilience, and the fact that you’re showing up. Clean off that shelf and let them shine! ✨
Step 4: Declutter the Closet (Let Go of Old Beliefs)
We all have that one closet (or two) stuffed with things we don’t need but can’t seem to let go of. Sometimes it’s old beliefs like "I’m too shy," or "I don’t belong here." Open that closet, take a deep breath, and start removing what doesn’t align with the confident version of yourself. Old beliefs serve no purpose in your new, cleaned-up, confidence-filled house!
Step 5: Add Some Fresh Decor (Positive Self-Talk)
Now it’s time to add some personal touches! Hang up the positive reminders that you want to see daily. "I am capable," "I deserve to be heard," "I bring value." These are like artwork on the walls of your mind. The more you look at them, the more they become part of your daily landscape. Put them somewhere visible—write them down, make sticky notes, keep them front and center.
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Final Thought 💭
Once you’ve cleaned up your mindset, you’ll feel lighter, more focused, and ready to welcome in more confidence. Remember, a tidy mind makes room for big dreams and bold moves. Confidence is Coming your way. The question is, will you be ready to let it not just come visit, but to set up residence in your life.
I realize this message wasn’t for everyone, but it was for SOMEONE. If that someone, is you and you were blessed by it, I invite you to type “Got some cleaning to do” in the chat. I also invite you to like, share or subscribe so I can bring other helpful tips and tools to help you build the confidence to live the life you were created to live.
Again, I’m Dr. Nicole Steele, The Confidence Coach. Until next time, Be Bold, Be Brilliant, Be Blessed.
🌸 Dear Moms, Your Love Matters 🌸 To all the incredible Mothers (Grandmothers, Aunts, and others raising girls) out there, we see you. ❤️ The way you pour your love, time, and energy into your girls, even when it feels like they might not notice or appreciate it—trust us, it matters. Your hugs, your kind words, your unwavering support—they plant seeds that will grow in their hearts. Sometimes, those seeds take time to bloom, but the love you sow will never be wasted. 🌱 There may be days when they push you away, roll their eyes, or seem distant. Don’t give up. Your persistence in showing love and affection teaches them resilience, trust, and the beauty of unconditional love. 💖 You are their safe space, their compass, and their cheerleader. Keep going! You are doing an amazing job, even when it doesn’t feel like it. Tag a mom who needs to hear this today. Let’s lift each other up, and remember to mark your calendar for my FREE Building Brilliant Bonds Mini-Masterclass on Monday, January 27th at 7:30 p.m. Visit https://bit.ly/45XW48B for details and to reserve your seat today. #BuildingBrilliantBonds #MotherhoodJourney #UnconditionalLove #KeepGoingMom #EncourageMoms #YouGotThis #DITR
🌸 This New Year, make your relationship with your daughter a top priority. 🌸 As mothers, we often juggle a million things—work, family, life—but the bond you share with your daughter is one that will shape her future. Take time to listen, connect, and nurture that unique relationship. Show her love, patience, and support, so she grows up feeling valued and understood. This year, let’s invest in our daughters’ hearts, minds, and futures. A strong mother-daughter relationship is one of the greatest gifts you can give her. Join The FREE Building Brilliant Bonds Mini Masterclass hosted by Dr. Nicole Steele, The Confidence Coach and Girl Guru in Monday, January 27th. Visit www.TheRealNicoleSteele.com to register today 💖 Make time. Make memories. Make her feel loved. 💖
Every small step you take towards your goals is a victory. Confidence doesn't come from waiting for the perfect moment—it comes from taking action, learning, and growing along the way. Don’t let fear or self-doubt hold you back. Start today, even if it's just one small thing, and watch your confidence soar as you build momentum. Your dreams are within reach, and you are more than capable of making them happen. I believe in you Sis!!! The time to act is NOW! 🌟 #WomenEmpowerment #ConfidenceBuilding #TakeAction
CLICK HERE FOR THE VIDEO Transcribed version Hey, it’s your girl, Dr. Nicole Steele, The Confidence Coach. As I sit here this fall afternoon and begin my day, I can’t help but think about the amount of money, time, and energy people have spent creating scenes and imagery to create fear and terror. Now, listen, I am in no way passing judgement on those who enjoy an occasional scary movie or a good, haunted house. Boo, do you. I to o once liked that type of thing but the older I get it’s just not working for me. I have found my peace to be more precious. But that’s not what I jumped on to chat about today, instead, I was thinking about what things are frightening to me at this point in my life or to those I serve in my line of work as a Confidence Coach. As I pondered that question, there were three things that instantly came to mind, that I would like to share with you today. #1 – It is scary to imagine living your whole life, yet allowing fear or feelings of inadequacy to prevent you from reaching your full potential. It makes me think about the countless people who stay stuck although they know there is so much more to life, but never fully grasping it because fear and doubt has cause them to be immobilized. There is nothing more powerful than stepping into your purpose and living up to your full potential. How do I know, you ask, because for many years I lived my life stuck? But I also know the power of pressing past feelings of inadequacy and trading fear for faith. I know that freedom and joy that comes as you experience the unimaginable as you evolve from who you once were, into the person you were destined and designed to become. I now get a chance to help others tap into that very thing as a visionary, leader, and coach, in and through, Diamond In The Rough, Gem Makers, and Beyond Brilliant #2 - It is frightening to imagine having to face the daily challenges of life on my own. I’m not sure about you, but as they say…life be lifing. It doesn’t matter who you are, or at what level you live, the trials and challenges of life escape no one. As I think about my personal journey, I can’t imagine having to have all the answers myself or having to rely on me to see me through. This is where the blessings of my faith, family, and friends play a major role. For anyone out there who is carrying the weight of the world on their shoulders, I beg you to allow the heavy burdens of life to be lifted. How do you do that you ask, first of all, you have to open your mouth, and I recommend starting with praying to God who is the ultimate burden lifter. Invite God into your situation. Seek His face and ask Him for guidance as you navigate life. He and He alone is all-knowing, all-powerful, and able to meet you at your point of need. Invite Him in. Next, find your tribe. For some, it may be your biological family, but for others, it may be a family that you have been blessed to form through life’s experiences. Either way, find your people. People who will encourage you, provide wise counsel, and intercede on your behalf. We were not meant to do life alone, so find your tribe or tap into a community that can care for you and fully support you during life’s challenges. #3 – Lastly, it can be terrifying as we look with uncertainty and great anticipation in the days ahead as a heated national election approaches. It is easy to allow fear and anxiety to creep in and take over, especially if you are watching the news, and commercials and listening to the pundits talk about all the possibilities. If any of you are feeling a little overwhelmed or experiencing anxiety, I encourage you to take a moment to breathe. That’s right... take a moment to actually breathe. Despite what it looks like and what it feels like, we are going to be alright. If each one of us does our part to exercise our right to vote and mix it with prayer for our nation, our leaders and the world, we can turn our attention toward God and place all our other concerns at His feet and trust the process. So as you go throughout the rest of your day, I encourage you above all to trade in any fear you are feeling with faith. In the meantime, if this has blessed you in any way, please like, share or subscribe. Until next time, I’m Dr. Nicole Steele, The Confidence Coach, encouraging you to be Bold, be Brilliant, Be Blessed.
TUESDAY TIP… Hold on, and don’t let go. You may have been abandoned, bamboozled, or disappointed by others in life who made promises they didn't keep, but let me assure you my sister, God is faithful. He can be trusted. He is not a man that He would lie. If He made you some promises and told you a thing or two, HOLD ON TO IT. No matter the storms that may come, don't let go. He is faithful Sis. I'm not telling you what I think...I'm telling you what I know. Make it a terrific Tuesday and hold on in faith.
TIME IS THE MOST VALUABLE THING YOU HAVE. PROTECT IT! As you begin your week, be intentional about how you spend your time. We all get the same 24 hours each day. Be sure to invest yours in a way that will help you get to your goals and live the life you were created to live. A few quick tips to help you manage your time - Create Brilliant Blocks in your schedule to complete the tasks that tend to steal your time (i.e. send emails, check texts, make calls, etc.) - Stack your tasks (i.e. listen to an audible book while working out, read your morning devotional with your morning coffee, etc.) - Allow some downtime between tasks to clear your head and refresh yourself. - Set time limits for each of your tasks. - Consider your weekly plan on a Sunday Make it a marvelous Monday! #TimeManagement #DrNicoleSteele #TheRealNicoleSteele
Tune into this week's episode of She's Crowned With Confidence, as host Dr. Nicole Steele welcomes Tune into this week's episode of She's Crowned With Confidence, as host Dr. Nicole Steele welcomes special guest, Dominique Carson, an award-winning journalist, author, orator, and licensed massage practitioner. With over 10+ years of experience, she has interviewed over 100 people in popular culture but credits her success to those who helped to cultivate her confidence.
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